If it seems that I am simplifying the process, I am. Do
you want to look in the mirror some day and see an old man or woman and say
where did my life go? When I look in the mirror, I see an old man, but I
have done everything I ever wanted to do in my life! So what have you
been putting off? Ask yourself what you need to do today to start to
accomplish it. About thirty three years ago, I realized I wanted to be
financial independent! I put together a plan to accomplish that goal by
age forty. I took my goal and broke it down to daily tasks. I
monitored my progress weekly, adjusted my efforts to meet my goals and I
accomplished my financial independence at age 38!
You have to take responsibility for your life! Stop making
excuses and start now to go for what you want. If you don’t have the
skills, get them! If you don’t have the training, get it! Get
whatever you need to meet the challenge. What do you need to do to lose
weight? What do you need to be financially independent? What do you
need to do to get out of debt? Remember success is the accomplishment of
the goal. Lay out your plan and execute it. Your plan must work for
you, so personalize it. When I was trying to lose weight, the vending
machines at work could undo my efforts so I never carried money. That
worked for me!
What are you doing to meet your goals? What are you doing today to
meet your goals? What excuse is keeping you from your goal? Successful
people don’t make excuses, they take action. The difference between an
excuse and a reason is clear. An excuse is an explanation of why
something failed blaming someone or something. A reason is an explanation
where everyone takes accountability. For example, I want to lose weight,
but I do not have time to go to the gym. Stop making excuses and start on
your dreams. Let’s start a trend, better yet a movement toward
accomplishing your goals, dreams or fantasies! What do you think?
...Watch this space...
Next year is my year of drama and prosperity,
God willing, I intend to change the way I live and the way I do certain things.
Just watch this space, I promise you my image will not be the same come January
2013. I plan to be extra fashionable in the way I address as the world is
changing at a rather faster pace. Another alteration will be on the perception
I have on men, I mean all men. I intend to be more flexible to allow men to
also have a say on decisions I make, be it on a social or corporate level.
Besides, keep on watching this space because I
am definitely getting what I want in the shortest possible time and of course
it is something that I will cherish very much and therefore, I mean to share
the joy of having it with the whole world, I mean with those who know me. As a
woman of virtue, I hold the power to get what I want with on doubt or fear. I
am not going to say it now for it is a huge surprise and if I did you will
watch this space no more. So, hang in there and watch this space.
Why
I have conversations
Sharing
information makes my life seem easier and helps us to survive, and if someone
agrees and can relate to what I am sharing I feel better it helps knowing that
you are not the only one. In social media when we update our status we looking
for attention, connectedness and information from others that are far from us.
Most
of the time I find myself talking to someone when I value their conversation
however when I am quiet around you it’s mainly because I don’t like you.
From
a public relations perspective I have conversations to ensure that I
strategically manage the perceptions of others about me, well that is not
exactly true. Below I have listed the conversations that I have on a regular
basis.
Conversations:
1 I
have real conversations with God, because this helps me to release anxiety and
fears even though I sometimes feel like no-one is listening it helps to have
faith and read scripture to find direction.
2 With
my friends, because it helps to know their situations are often worst than
mine, and if they have no news to entertain me with, we always willing to
change the topic and make it about someone else with gossip and deep feelings.
3 My
mother ‘the preacher” as she is always pretending to be Doctor Phil trying to
sort out everyone’s issues but her own.
4 With
myself to suppress negative thoughts and be positive.
5 On
social media channels with status updates and little random promotions about
myself and new activities which can become annoying but it is just to starting
a conversation.
100 THINGS YOU DIE
1.Attend at least one major sporting event: the
Super Bowl, the Olympics, the U.S. Open.
2.Throw
a huge party and invite every one of your friends.
3.Swim
with a dolphin.
4.Skydive.
5.Have
your portrait painted.
6.Learn
to speak a foreign language and make sure you use it.
7.Go
skinny-dipping at midnight in the South of France.
8.Watch
the launch of the space shuttle.
9.Spend
a whole day eating junk food without feeling guilty.
10.Be
an extra in a film.
11.Tell
someone the story of your life, sparing no details.
12.Make
love on a forest floor.
13.Make
love on a train.
14.Learn
to rollerblade.
15.Own
a room with a view.
16.Brew
your own beer.
17.Learn
how to take a compliment.
18.Buy
a round-the-world air ticket and a rucksack, and run away.
19.Grow
a beard and leave it for at least a month.
20.Give
your mother a dozen red roses and tell her you love her.
21.Be
a member of the audience in a TV show.
22.Put
your name down to be a passenger on the first tourist shuttle to the moon.
23.Send
a message in a bottle.
24.Ride
a camel into the desert.
25.Get
to know your neighbors.
26.Plant
a tree.
27.Learn
not to say yes when you really mean no.
28.Write
a fan letter to your all-time favorite hero or heroine.
29.Visit
the Senate and the House of Representatives to see how Congress really works.
30.Learn
to ballroom danceproperly.
31.Eat
jellied eels from a stall in London.
32.Be
the boss.
33.Fall
deeply in love -- helplessly and unconditionally.
34.Ride
the Trans-Siberian Express across Asia.
35.Sit
on a jury.
36.Write
the novel you know you have inside you.
37.Go
to Walden Pond and read Thoreau while drifting in a canoe.
38.Stay
out all night dancing and go to work the next day without having gone home
(just once).
39.Drink
beer at Oktoberfest in Munich.
40.Be
someone's mentor.
41.Shower
in a waterfall.
42.Ask
for a raise.
43.Learn
to play a musical instrument with some degree of skill.
44.Teach
someone illiterate to read.
45.Be
one of the first to take a flight on the new Airbus A380.
46.Spend
a night in a haunted house -- by yourself.
47.Write
down your personal mission statement, follow it, and revise it from time to
time.
48.See
a lunar eclipse.
49.Spend
New Year's in an exotic location.
50.Get
passionate about a cause and spend time helping it, instead of just thinking
about it.
51.Experience
weightlessness.
52.Sing
a great song in front of an audience.
53.Ask
someone you've only just met to go on a date.
54.Drive
across America from coast to coast.
55.Make
a complete and utter fool of yourself.
56.Own
one very expensive but absolutely wonderful business suit.
57.Write
your will.
58.Sleep
under the stars.
59.Take
a ride on the highest roller coaster in the country.
60.Learn
how to complain effectively -- and do it!
61.Go
wild in Rio during Carnival.
62.Spend
a whole day reading a great novel.
63.Forgive
your parents.
64.Learn
to juggle with three balls.
65.Drive
the Autobahn.
66.Find
a job you love.
67.Spend
Christmas on the beach drinking pina coladas.
68.Overcome
your fear of failure.
69.Raft
through the Grand Canyon.
70.Donate
money and put your name on something: a college scholarship, a bench in the
park.
71.Buy
your own house and then spend time making it into exactly what you want.
72.Grow
a garden.
73.Spend
three months getting your body into optimum shape.
74.Drive
a convertible with the top down and music blaring.
75.Accept
yourself for who you are.
76.Learn
to use a microphone and give a speech in public.
77.Scuba
dive off Australia's Great Barrier Reef.
78.Go
up in a hot-air balloon.
79.Attend
one really huge rock concert.
80.Kiss
someone you've just met on a blind date.
81.Be
able to handle: your tax forms, Jehovah's Witnesses, your banker, telephone
solicitors.
82.Give
to a charityanonymously.
83.Lose
more money than you can afford at roulette in Vegas.
84.Let
someone feed you peeled, seedless grapes.
85.Kiss
the Blarney stone and develop the gift of gab.
86.Fart in a crowded space.
87.Make
love on the kitchen floor.
88.deep sea fishing and eat your catch.
89.Create
your own web site.
90.Visit
the Holy Land.
91.Make
yourself spend a half-day at a concentration camp and swear never to forget.
92.Run
to the top of the Statue of Liberty.
93.Create
your Family Tree.
94.Catch
a ball in the stands of a major league baseball stadium.
95.Make
a hole-in-one.
96.Ski
a double-black diamond run.
97.Learn
to bartend.
98.Run
a marathon.
99.Look
into your child's eyes, see yourself, and smile.
100Reflect
on your greatest weakness, and realize how it is your greatest strength.
My Big Fat Dream
I am chasing my big fat
BIG dream, though; it’s not an easy chase.
Patience is a virtue in this quest.
The hunt for this enormous dream requires proper planning in order to have
direction.
Of which direction results in being focused on what I want to achieve.
Oh, Yes! Determination, the courage and strength to go on is needed as this is
a complicated road.
It’s a road full of many serious obstacles; ditches, bumps, people congestion,
blockage of the mind and fear of risk taking and failure.
My chase of the big fat BIG dream, I can assure you has been the most
devastating ever although, the most rewarding one as victory is evident.
This quest has now made me too deeply understand the Portuguese term (Aluta
Continua-A Victoria E Certa), which Angola and Mozambique used during their
liberation struggles.
In English the term means “The Battle Continues-As Victory is evident/certain”.
I believe every big fat BIG dream requires the craziest chase ever, the chase
of a life time. Chase your dreams to the fullest.
Most amazingly, I am almost there.
Conventional is a good fallback position isn't it?
At least people know
that once they go conventional no one will criticise them because they are
conforming to accepted customs. However, once a person deviates from what is
“formal”, confusion starts.
Although, not all customs are good for everybody and for this reason, somehow
those who “stray” from them are unfairly treated.
Besides,
I would say being conventional is being afraid of taking up risks. Though, this
norm (conventional) is dangerous in today’s society, where people need to be
creative and innovative to survive. This is because the modern generation is
comprised of individualised persons who have capitalistic minds.Not afraid to
take on new challenges to improve the standards of living. While this kind of
thinking has developed globally, it is still regarded as a threat to tradition.
People here see things totally different from the olden good days. Now it’s all
about me, the other people don’t really matter, anyways; I will only need them
when time comes.
In the past, people depended on each
other for survival; the success of a member of a family was the whole family’s
triumph. One would say that the reason for so many problems at present is due
to man’s divergence from what is considered right.
The good logic is to have both and thus be conventional as well as an activist.
You cannot chase two rabbits at the same time
….or so they say.
I have experienced the nasty pain of this once before. I was
chasing my dream of becoming a public relations professional, can’t wait for
that dream to become a reality, and while chasing that dream it seemed that I
lost so many aspects of my personal life along the way. My studies were
blossoming and I was enjoying every moment of it, however I lost so many
friends, friends that I thought would be a part of my life forever. It is sad
to think about the difficult decisions which had to be made. Although, there
are many days when I still feel sad, and I miss my friends terribly, I have to
trust the Lord that I have made the right decisions and that it will all be
worthy it in the end.
So, however much I wanted to catch both rabbits, in my personal
and professional life… I had make a decision.
When choosing which rabbit to chase, make sure that you think
about it before you decide. Remember that the chances of ever catching the
other rabbit are slim to none.
Nothing is more dangerous than an
idea, when you only have one idea
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Have you figured out the second head fake
I think that I live my life doing unto and treating others as I would
like do into me. I happen to think that I live my life according to God’s will
and society’s rules. I understand what it is to have morals and integrity - and
to live by them.
I fully understand
that life can be cruel and unfair and when you least need it to be. That if I
want something that I need to work hard to get that there are no hand-outs in
life. However, just because I worked hard does not mean I will get what I want.
God has a greater plan for me. Sometimes, He closes doors to open a window to
an even better opportunity.
I live my life in
the present moment but also planning that God will grace me with a future,
therefore, I plan my life accordingly. I have learnt to make mistakes, learn
from them, pick myself up, to make amends where necessary and do things
differently. I have learnt to be the kind of person I can respect.
Have I mastered the
art of the second head fake? Not by a long shot, but the beauty of life is that
there is no final destination, rather the constant opportunity to improve on
myself to be the kind of person I want to be.
I AM.....?
Treat others the
way you want to be treated. And respect them for who they are. Don’t change
them. Even though some people may not be nice to you at first, they will come
around eventually.
If you're still
attending school you must make sure to steer clear of drama and gossip. If
someone decides to randomly gossip to you,"Hey did you hear what Sue said
about Mary?", simply walk away. Its really that easy.
If you get
annoyed by someone try to remember they're probably unaware that they are being
annoying. Keep
positive.
Assume the best
about people. Most people don't mean to insult or offend others most of the
time. Unless it's overt, assume the slight was accidental.
Bad language,
gossiping, whining, selfishness and greediness don't mix with being nice.
Hold the door open
for someone who is approaching the door the same time you are. Allow them to go
in ahead of you. Do the same if you are leaving a store, hold the door open
wide, and allow whoever is leaving to leave before you.
If you are
sitting, and you see an older, pregnant, ill person or someone with a baby or
small children standing, offer them your seat if there are no other free seats
close by.
Remember using
vulgar language won't make a very good impression
Be courteous.
A skill set called Leadership
When I think of great leaders like Gandhi, Nelson Mandela,
Marcus Garvey, Richard Branson, Wangari Maathai, Martin Luther King – it seems
to me that these almost mythological beings did not exactly set out on their
journey with the thought of “Oh I will be a great leader one day”. Instead… I
think it rather went something like “Oh I wish to make a difference”.
These and other
great leaders possess a great vision … a vision that is not based on gain for
the personal self, but a vision about having an impact on the “bigger picture”
of their world or times, having a positive impact on peoples lives. With the
commitment to this strong vision in mind, they set to work with the belief of
making it happen, no matter what the challenges, cost or risks at stake.
Following on some
of their journeys, a common thread is that the journey towards achieving their
dream is certainly not an easy one, encountering and experiencing hardships
some of us can only imagine. It seems, the bigger the dream, the bigger the
risks and challenges.
To me, leadership
is a status given to exemplary individuals and is not something that can be
taken. So how can you or anyone go about becoming a great leader?
Dream. Dream big!
In fact - dream bigger than BIG. Then, with your every breath, thought and action,
set out to make it happen. When your dream and actions inspire others to dream
and act too, then you would know, yet another great leader is born.
In the Future everybody will be world
famous for fifteen minutes.”You cant choose the 15 minutes but why would you be
world famous”
I grew
up during a time before just anyone could get famous no matter the level of
talent, and before paparazzi literally made a fortune from their photo’s. You
really had to be something special to deserve fame back then….and I know it
sounds like I’m referring to 200 years back in time, but trust me, it’s not that
long ago.
So
today anyone can reach fame and I think we have reality TV to thank for
that….if there’s anything to be thankful for. The result of this so called
“fame” is often a lot of careless exposure, trash media and of course, trash
TV. And no, I’m not a fan of reality TV, mainly because I never understood
shows like “Big Brother”. Watching other people on TV who are locked up in a
house with strangers under abnormal circumstances is like watching a barn that
you fill with all sort of animals.
But what I wonder is why would you want
to be famous in the first place? You wouldn’t be able to go anywhere without
being recognized…and I can imagine that we’re talking about both positive and
negative attention. Loose weight, gain weight and it’s all over the tabloids.
You’re too fat, too skinny….too everything. And you wouldn’t be able to have a
normal relationship for any amount of time either. If ever. At least in
Hollywood it seems that love affairs and marriages are a part of the trade –
your partner is chosen depending on what will be positive for your career at
the time. And there’s not a lot of things that can’t be done in the name of PR.
And I’m sure it’s pretty lonely at the
top of the world no matter how much people you surround yourself with. Who can
you trust? Do you know anyone in your immediate surroundings who wouldn’t want
something from you if you were famous?
Some TV-channel showed a documentary about Marilyn Monroe the other night and
about her last years before she died. That’s part of what made me think about
this. She died alone and very depressed no matter if she was killed or killed
herself. In any case, she wasn’t even 40 years old and I wonder if it was worth
it.
There are always things that fame and money cannot buy.
“X-Factor” and a lot of other talent
shows does nothing but expose all the kids who want to be pop stars…and it’s
not just kids for that matter. Grown up people also want to be in the lime
light, so for the sake of fairness it’s there in all ages. What is so sad about
those kind of shows is that they are nothing but a carrot to entertain the
masses temporarily. Not a lot of the winners have actually made it to the
top….and I believe that’s not the point either. It’s just more trash TV really.
Maybe you have to be wired in a different
way to handle fame, I don’t know…but there is something about being anonymous
that is far more attractive.
